Welcome To Winter Land

  1. I didn’t ask for it to be over, but then again, I didn’t ask for it to begin. For that’s the way it is with life, as some of the most beautiful days come completely by chance. But even the most beautiful days eventually have their sunsets.

  2. I miss all the little things. Like him driving with his hand resting on my knee and the way we’d share a big gooey ice cream. But I especially miss the hot nights in those motel rooms when he was all around me, the taste, and the scent and the feel of him. And I’d fall asleep in his arms, with the sound of his heartbeat being the last thing I heard before going to sleep. I ache with longing.

    I miss all the little things. Like him driving with his hand resting on my knee and the way we’d share a big gooey ice cream. But I especially miss the hot nights in those motel rooms when he was all around me, the taste, and the scent and the feel of him. And I’d fall asleep in his arms, with the sound of his heartbeat being the last thing I heard before going to sleep. I ache with longing.

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    Online collaboration coming soon! This place is about to BLOW!

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    Its Here and it official..

  5. Rejected For Being Gay

    I just heard from a friend who relayed the story of how a coworker he used to enjoy talking with found out he’s gay and now won’t have anything to do with him.  How sad.  Even with the amazing progress that’s been made, it’s still a familiar story.  We hear on the news about this sorta thing happening in our schools, but it’s also happening among adults.  And not just with coworkers or acquaintances, but even among close friends and family.  So my friend, like many others, is dealing once again with rejection over the fact that he’s gay.  Half-kidding, he mentioned that maybe he should reject his coworker for having brown hair!  Of course, unlike being gay, his coworker could artificially change his hair color.


    Strangely enough, I’d actually scribbled a note this past week on this same topic.  I’m periodically told by friends from my past that, although they still love me, they don’t agree with my being gay.  Huh?  What is there to disagree with?  In my note I’d asked if that would be like me saying I love them but I don’t agree with their height.

    Actually, I can’t help laughing.  Disagreeing with someone’s height really does seem completely absurd!  What is there to agree or disagree with?  It just is!  People obviously can’t change their height.  Most importantly, it doesn’t change who they really are on the inside.  And isn’t that what really matters?

    But there are still lots of prejudices.  We judge based on ethnicity, gender, physical limitations, religious beliefs, political views, social status, and a slew of other things.  And yes, sexual orientation.  Pretty much anything that makes us different is a potential target for prejudice.  In fact, as strange as it may seem, people do actually judge others based on height.  Ask a midget or dwarf.

    But, despite all this, I do believe we’re making progress towards embracing diversity.  Amazing progress really.  So even though I’m saddened by the way things are sometimes, I’m grateful for every step we’ve taken away from prejudice and towards greater love and acceptance.  And I believe in a future filled with even more positive changes.  Of course, even if nothing around me changes, I can still experience positive change myself by embracing diversity, moving away from prejudice and moving towards greater love and acceptance.  And, at least for me, that’s the most important change — the change inside me.

    Finally, to my friend, I’m sorry for you pain.  I know you’ve been through this kind or rejection before, but we both know that doesn’t necessarily make it easier.  Actually, part of me is glad you’re feeling pain.  It shows that, with all you’ve been through, you still have a heart.  And it’s that heart, a heart even now full of love and acceptance for others, that makes you the beautiful person you are.  You are an inspiration to the rest of us.  An inspiration for change.  So don’t change a thing.  Not even your hair. :-)

  6. Who would Choose to be Gay?

    “Being gay is a choice.”  We’ve probably all heard that at some point.  While most people today don’t believe that to be true, for various reasons there are still many who do.

    While I can’t speak for everyone, I can say that I for one never chose to be gay.  In fact, I did just the opposite.  I specifically chose to be straight.  Actually, “chose” sounds WAY too benign.  I was desperate to be straight, and I tried desperately to change.  For a couple of decades.


    I’d been taught that being gay was not only a choice, but it was also a sin against God worthy of eternal judgment.  I felt broken and condemned.  I detested my being gay.  So I did everything I could to change myself, including begging God to fix me.  I chose time and time again to be straight.  But in the end, no matter how many times I chose to be straight or how hard I chose not to be gay, I was still gay.  Choosing to be gay, or straight, was not an option for me.

    But let’s say for a moment that our sexual orientation is a choice.  Although tremendous progress has been made, ours has historically been a society that has harassed, ostracized and discriminated against lesbian and gays.  People have been beaten up and even killed just for being gay.  And we continue to hear about young people who are taking their own lives because of their homosexuality.  So who would choose to be gay?  Who would choose to be harassed, separated from their families, discriminated against, or worse?

    After many years of struggling, I’ve finally come to a place of acceptance with myself as a gay man.  Actually, more than just acceptance, I’ve finally come to a place where I am learning to genuinely embrace myself, including the fact that I’m gay.  Being gay is a part of who I am, and I’m learning to love myself exactly the way I am.  So for me the only successful choice I’ve made regarding my sexual orientation was to finally love and accept and embrace myself, just as I am.

    And I wonder if that’s not the real choice for everyone.  Choosing to love and accept and embrace — not just ourselves, but everyone.  Regardless of religious or social or political differences.  And regardless of sexual orientation.

    With gay marriage so much in the news today, many are struggling to understand the issues surrounding sexual orientation and civil rights.  Or to understand those who oppose it.  My encouragement to everyone would be, before you make a decision about anything and before you make statements or accusations about anyone, make a decision to choose to love and acceptance and embrace.  Like me, you may find you’ve been struggling with the wrong questions all along.

  7. “The Man Who Can’t Be Moved”

    “The Man Who Can’t Be Moved”

  8. Planetromeo

    While simply browsing and reading profiles in planetromeo, suddenly I have this feeling, thoughts these innuendos towards my fellow brothers facing problems, telling their wants, visioning dreams & setting standards on their headlines, stating bitches on their profile & mostly vividly showcasing pretensions..*sigh…. well here’s my take on this:

    You are the holder of your own desire, your own pleasure and your own peace. Allow them to flow freely, in whichever directions they pull, so long as you do it with love, with respect, with intention—so long as you are willing to live, to learn, and to grow into the person you are meant to become and the relationships you are meant to share.

    Also, be mindful of false justifications. You do not have to justify your existence or your identity by buying into traditional notions of monogamy, family, or normative ways of doing/having sex. You are free to exist and to explore as you truly are— experienced or new, vanilla or kink, poly or not, silly or sweet—as long as it’s safe and consensual.

    Remember that your sexuality is more fluid than society would lead you to think. Just as it can be hard for a person raised in a hetero-normative culture to acknowledge same-sex attractions, it can also be hard for a queer-identified person to acknowledge opposite-sex attractions. Don’t let anyone, including yourself, force you into a box or deny the validity of your feelings. Being queer doesn’t mean being gay 100% of the time. It’s about the identity you choose, the community you have, and how you see the world.

    We’re trained to see only male or female and to plot people into those categories when they actually don’t fit neatly at all. But if we pause, watch and listen closely we’ll see the multiplicity of ways in which people are sexed and gendered. There exists a range of personal identifications around woman, man, in-between—we don’t even have names or pronouns that reflect that in between place but people certainly live in it. BE WHO YOU ARE, enjoy WHO YOU ARE, and most importantly….ACCEPT AND LOVE THE REAL YOU :)


    So BE PROUD!!! LOVE LOVE LOVE MORE OF YOURSELF…COZ NOBODY WOULD LOVE YOU THE WAY YOU DO….:)

    There is no such thing as getting bored at all..there are just situations that you cant easily fit into, cant be happy, cant just be real….all you have to do is be inventive…think..think…;just dont get yourself be tired unto it, just be happy and when that time comes…be contented:) Just always remember: CONTENTMENT is an impregnable fortress..fortify yourself with it alright?

    love love love:)

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    Its officially here my piano version of LOUDER. Thanks to @MarrelStrip for the album cover!

  10. Our Baby Athena just stole my sister’s moment I don’t get it everyone wants to have a picture with her? Haha!!

    Our Baby Athena just stole my sister’s moment I don’t get it everyone wants to have a picture with her? Haha!!
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